The Power of Forgiveness

The Power Of Forgiveness | Adri Kyser

The Power of Forgiveness

This is such a juicy topic that I cannot wait to read your comments about the power of forgiveness.

I’m not a stranger to the process of forgiving. I have personally read, talked, heard and lived many experiences regarding this topic. The power of forgiveness is an important subject all of us should constantly remember.

Have you ever felt hurt, betrayed, disappointed or all of the above?

In our lifetime, many of us have felt this way one time or another due to the words, actions or lack of action by others.

Sometimes people that have hurt us don’t even know what they did. Other times, their actions were intentional and uncalled for. Regardless of the intention, we are the ones that are deeply wounded and carry the pain, hurt and anger within us.

Normally, after our initial stage of being hurt (it may be few days, weeks, months or even years), we try to move on with our lives and let the incident be a thing of the past. It is easier to move past the event when we receive a heartfelt apology, but often times we don’t get an apology at all.

Unfortunately, we can carry the memory of hurtful events and the feelings associated with them for a long time, taking a toll on our physical, mental and emotional health.

Forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of resentment. It is a journey to freedom from our past.

Learning To Forgive

Learning to forgive can lead to feelings of understanding, compassion and empathy for the one (s) who hurt us.

Like Deepak Chopra says “What we don’t recognize is that holding onto resentment is like holding onto your breath. You’ll soon start to suffocate”.

  • Forgiveness does not change the past nor does it free the person from their responsibility of his /her wrong actions.
  • Forgiving will not erase what happened but it can lessen the intensity on how you remember such events.
  • Forgiveness actually frees you up from the ties that are holding you back. It opens the doors to healing and to new possibilities.
  • Forgiveness is something we do entirely for ourselves.

One of the most common obstacles I find in the process of forgiving is that many people, deep down are expecting an apology. They want the person that hurt them to know the pain his/her actions have caused them. Some even want that person to feel the same pain. This type of thinking does not lead to freedom, inner peace and inner power.

When you expect the other person to apologize or to hurt the same way you have, you are still tied to their hurtful actions.

[tweetthis]As long as you’re expecting that person to apologize, you’re still tied to his hurtful actions.[/tweetthis]

You are giving them your power and peace. You can find freedom and strength by forgiving and cutting the ties that bound you to them and their past actions. I know it sounds really simple and easy, but I know it is harder that in sounds.

Take a moment here and ask yourself these “Are you ready to” questions:

  • Be free?
  • Be happy?
  • Let go of the past?
  • Forgive?

If so, start the process of forgiveness now.

Starting The Process of Forgiveness

Here are few things that may help up.

  • Be patient with yourself and don’t expect everything to be ok overnight.
  • Reflect on the event, the facts, on how you’ve reacted, and how this has affected your life and well-being.
  • Actively choose to forgive the person who has offended you.
  • Write in a piece of paper the name of the person, the event, and your feelings. Say a prayer and affirm you’re done with holding on to this and you are finally releasing it and letting it go.
  • You can burn the piece of paper as a symbolic act of burning the ties that are preventing you from living a happy, loving and peaceful life.
  • If the circumstances allow it, maybe have a polite talk with the person causing you pain. This will close and complete the cycle and hopefully will give you some resolution.
  • Pray for their well-being or send them positive energy. They may be going through something in their lives. This one is not as easy but it sure is powerful.
  • Personally I found Yoga and Meditation to be powerful tools to help me forgive, find balance and inner peace.

Remember that you are not a victim and you can choose to claim back the control and power you have given consciously or unconsciously to those that have hurt you.        

Check out my post “Stepping Into Your Power”  for additional help.

If you have experienced successful tools or actions taken that helped you forgive, I would love to hear about it.

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