Last week I talked to one of my new clients who said to me “Adri, I feel lost. I’ve spent the past 18 years taking care of my family, raising my children, going to work, taking care of everyone and everything else that I never thought about what I wanted or needed.”
This is not the first time I hear this. It seems that around our early to mid ’30-’40s there is a shift that begins to happen within ourselves.
We all go through a process. We go to school, getting a job, getting married and/or starting a family, raising our children, etc.
Our lives get really busy and we somehow manage it all to the best of our abilities.
But what happens when our kids are grown? When the piles of laundry get smaller? When our schedules are less hectic leaving us with more time on our hands?
What happens when you realized that you have dedicated the past 18-20+ years to taking care of everything and everyone and now you have the time to BE with yourself?
We may start asking ourselves Who Am I? What is my purpose? What makes me happy? Am I making an impact? Am I following my dreams? and the list goes on…
Mid-Life Crisis Or Awakening?
This is the moment some call “a mid-life crisis”… But I prefer to refer to it as “awakening or wakeup up call”.
Many refer to this period as a crisis because this wake-up call has to be something really big in order for us to wake up and listen. Our lives are flipped upside down in order to bring change and growth.
Sometimes this “awakening period” it’s just a gentler nudge guiding us in new directions that we were hesitant to take.
Either way, this period in our 30-40’s can bring changes and moments of uncertainty but it can also bring clarity, wisdom, and LOTS OF HEALING.
We find ourselves wondering if we have done all that we are meant to be doing. We feel a need to go within and finally face those things that we put on the back burner for so long.
My Wake Up Call
My wake up call came when I realized that I had to face my fears, deal with the root cause of my emotional pain that was causing me so much physical pain.
I was turning 30 and finally ready to listen to the rumbling inside of me urging me to step out of my comfort zone and do something different to heal from the inside out. I did not know it a the time, but this new path changed my life for the better.
During this time of “awakening”, we can receive guidance, insight, healing from past hurts, find inner freedom, step into our power, change direction, find new paths…
Just like a caterpillar has to go through metamorphosis (complete transformation) in order to become a beautiful butterfly…
In order for us to get to the “next phase”, we must let go of what is no longer serving us.
We must let go of the excuses, doubts, and fears that prevent us from becoming our best version of ourselves and sharing our gifts and talents with the world.
Now that I’m in my early 40’s I look back and I’m grateful for that wake-up call and for all of the changes that needed to occur in order to fully embrace who I’m today.
What You Can Do
If you find yourself in crisis or having a wake-up call,